It’s Time To Share The Love

2020 was one hell of a year and so far 2021 is kind of crazy too. We are in the middle of a Global pandemic, Covid-19 counts are on the rise again and the new norm sucks! With that being said I think it’s a good time to talk about sharing the love. The world needs it right now but most importantly your other half may need it the most. But first we must deal with some housekeeping.

HOUSEKEEPING:

1- I am not a licensed therapist, there is no PhD after my name. I hold no degrees or certificates indicating that I am qualified to treat ANY medical issues. This blog post is based off of my personal experiences in life and marriage. It is to be used for entertainment and informational purposes only. If you feel you are in danger in any way PLEASE seek professional help.

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Now on with sharing the love.

DON’T WORRY BE HAPPY

I know this is easier said than done especially in these trying times with divorce rates on the rise. But think of it this way, it may just help you not be one of the statistics.

In my 26 years of marriage experience I will let you all in on a little secret. A man does not want to come home to a woman who is miserable. If you want that “Happy Life” than the best way to get it is to show your man a “Happy Wife”. I want you to really think about this, do you remember when you first started dating your husband/significant other? Do you remember what you felt like? How about how much your face lit up when you saw them? I guarantee that the way you looked at them when you first started dating was a huge ego boost and it made them feel wanted. Now you tell me, what person doesn’t need a little ego boost? So come on friends, don’t worry be happy, you’ll be surprised at what a smile on your face can do.

FOCUS ON THE GOOD

Have you ever noticed that what you focus on increases? If you are constantly focusing on all the problems that you have in your life right now then that is all that you will see. Your missing out on the good things because you’re focusing on all the bad things.

I love my husband dearly. We have a pretty good life together but trust me, marriage is hard work! If I focused on all the things he does that drives me nuts we most definitely would not be where we are today, as I’m sure the same can be said for him. I’m no peach to live with daily, however I know that a happy house takes work and focusing on the good things is a big part of that.

LET’S TALK LOVE….. LANGUAGES THAT IS

Do you speak your other half’s love language? Oh yes, I am going there because it’s kind of amazing. I love to learn new things especially when it comes to relationships. Not too long ago I read Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages and it has put things into perspective for me.

We all have a love language, one of the five that Chapman writes about. In his book there’s a little quiz to take which will tell you what language you speak. Ideally you and your mate will want to take this quiz because as humans we speak in our own love language and this may not be your other half’s language.

Now, this is something I’ve personally experienced and as crazy as it sounds it’s absolutely true. My love language is physical touch and I’m a pretty touchy feely kinda girl but the hubs love language is acts of services. Don’t be getting the wrong idea, it’s not those “acts”. Anyway, he Is constantly speaking to me in his love language. He loads the dishwasher, cleans my car, all the physical stuff that I can no longer do he does. Even before I was injured he spoke to me in his language though and I spoke to him in mine. Sadly these days it is a little harder for me to speak to him in his language due to my activities being limited but I always try to do my best.

I suggest anyone that is having some difficulty in their relationship give this book a try. It’s definitely worth the read, you can find it > here.<

GOT A MATE NOT INTO PARTICIPATION

Have things gotten so bad that your other half doesn’t want anything to do with you? Or maybe you just don’t even want to talk to them about any of this because it’s just not worth another argument. Guess what!? You can read the book on your own and start implementing some of the things you learned without saying a word. You will be amazed when you start seeing changes in your mate. That’s right, because once you start changing the dance moves in your routine, they have no other choice than to get with the program.

I’ve lived it folks. I read the book, changed the routine and had one of the best years of marriage. You’d be amazed at the way you start seeing things when you focus on the good and I’m not talking just in your relationship. We are talking all relationships change when you make the decision on where to put your focus.

Let’s start sharing the love! Until next time friends, travel and fall in love, your adventure awaits ❤️